We experience wide range of emotions at different points of our lives and sometimes people especially women who find they are falling in love with their boyfriends and partners do not know how to positively deal with their emotions. The art of handling emotions, both pleasant and unpleasant, is individualistic and is greatly related with the person’s past experience. Controlling our emotions so we can maintain a healthy perspective with current relationships and personal interactions could be a real challenge to behavior change, outlook in life, seeing reality and how you choose the best ways to express your emotions.

“I can say that I am not perfect in controlling my emotions. When I am in love I give all the best of myself, time and anything I can think of to make my man happy. His happiness becomes my priority. Sad to say most of the time, him and his priorities comes on top of mine! Have you ever tried giving up your work and a lot of your waking time to serve his needs just to keep the relationship? Naahhh, laugh…. I am a fool when I am in love because I don’t see any reason why I should hold back anything if that could make my man happy and work out the relationship fine. I do not hide nor ignore my emotions. I am a very expressive person and I love to serve and love my man. Dear Lord, this is craziness!!!!”

Perfect love comes from honest and transparent expressions. We can not even tell it is perfect because the love we receive is an expression of the need and what our partners want. We think that we express how we feel according to how we envision our partners would want us to express them and how we envision could make our partners happy. Actually expressions run in our own context based on the experience that we have and how we witness such expressions in our childhood and early years of life. We pattern our thoughts, feelings and perceptions to experience and witnessing similar situations. We express and say what we feel in our own “context”.

What about if you had a traumatic relationship experience? What would become of self expressions? I can say it will greatly change to fear, a lot of hang ups and irrelevant line of thoughts. It is such a waste of emotion and energy but it will continue to exist within you until such time that it can be resolved. If your love and relationship with your current partner is not strong then it would be another failure. The best way is to be real honest and transparent with your feelings and your thoughts. Talking would greatly help you out. Your partners could very well help you stop the pain and the baggage you’ve been carrying if he is willing to be patient and help you out deal with your past.

The best way to curtail hang ups is to get yourself preoccupied and busy. Having a lot of things to do is constructive and will greatly set your thoughts on your task on hand rather than think of whatever your feelings are bringing you waves to deal on. Put a little reservation of yourself. Never give up everything for the love of a man! He might not be worth it…. Or he may not be able to return the intensity of the feelings and dedication you gave him…. Love is great but it should not be a reason to forget yourself and just live for the man you’ve fallen in love. All I can say is put a little reservation for yourself so when the relationship gets broken you won’t find it difficult to stand again because you were able to save a little of yourself. Lol this is funny because I was not able to do that and it did broke my heart and my life real fast!!!